Comments on: Couples, How to Stop Verbal Abuse in Its Tracks http://vitalrelationships.com/couples-how-to-stop-verbal-abuse-in-its-tracks/ Marriage Counseling, Making Your Relationship Work Wed, 01 Feb 2012 06:27:00 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.2.1 By: Maebgr8 http://vitalrelationships.com/couples-how-to-stop-verbal-abuse-in-its-tracks/comment-page-1/#comment-63 Maebgr8 Sun, 15 Jan 2012 21:57:00 +0000 http://www.vitalrelationships.com/blog/?p=290#comment-63 I need help. Mr boyfriend is either nice or not and I never know when he will blow! I've confronted him on his abuse but he back peddles and blames me. The last straw was when I stated my pain due to my hips ( need a total hip repacement) caused me to feel hopless and want to die. He stated to me that he could not deal w my dead body, that I was crazy, and better not do this in his house. I'm sooo hurt!! Is this abuse or an honest answer? I need help. Mr boyfriend is either nice or not and I never know when he will blow! I’ve confronted him on his abuse but he back peddles and blames me. The last straw was when I stated my pain due to my hips ( need a total hip repacement) caused me to feel hopless and want to die. He stated to me that he could not deal w my dead body, that I was crazy, and better not do this in his house. I’m sooo hurt!! Is this abuse or an honest answer?

]]> By: Lynnezellars http://vitalrelationships.com/couples-how-to-stop-verbal-abuse-in-its-tracks/comment-page-1/#comment-61 Lynnezellars Fri, 06 Jan 2012 04:09:00 +0000 http://www.vitalrelationships.com/blog/?p=290#comment-61 I just ignore him. Is that a good tactic? What is the message that Is send him with this reaction. NO REACTION My father was somewhat abusive verbally. I just blow my now boyfriend off. I am hoping he understands the ignoring is meant to mean I think he is stupid to even go there I just ignore him. Is that a good tactic? What is the message that Is send him with this reaction.

NO REACTION

My father was somewhat abusive verbally. I just blow my now boyfriend off. I am hoping he understands the ignoring is meant to mean I think he is stupid to even go there

]]> By: Avignonfr http://vitalrelationships.com/couples-how-to-stop-verbal-abuse-in-its-tracks/comment-page-1/#comment-57 Avignonfr Sat, 19 Nov 2011 17:27:00 +0000 http://www.vitalrelationships.com/blog/?p=290#comment-57 Please, please, listen to Lisant.  I was in that situation and with the support of outsiders got out, but only after the abuse became physical--and it usually does.  I could elaborate but just believe the advice of those who have been through it.  I had no family support but I had to save my family and myself.  Again,  PLEASE GET OUT! Please, please, listen to Lisant.  I was in that situation and with the support of outsiders got out, but only after the abuse became physical–and it usually does.  I could elaborate but just believe the advice of those who have been through it.  I had no family support but I had to save my family and myself.  Again,  PLEASE GET OUT!

]]> By: Lisant1987 http://vitalrelationships.com/couples-how-to-stop-verbal-abuse-in-its-tracks/comment-page-1/#comment-46 Lisant1987 Fri, 02 Sep 2011 02:08:00 +0000 http://www.vitalrelationships.com/blog/?p=290#comment-46 Run before relationship goes any further. It will only get worse. Everything is your fault, his anger, his actions...you made him do it. If you have kids and give up your career, then your really stuck.  As I  have been told, "the door is there", "I'll quit my job and we'll loose the house", "I'll let the kids starve", "you're worthless because you don't have a job but don't expect me to help with the kids if you get a job.. better be only during school hours", etc. etc. etc. Classic signs of verbal abuse.  Wait until attacking you isn't enough and he attacks your kids. This usually starts around 6 yrs. old.  Before that, the kids confusion to the situation doesn't give him his control or  power. As I said RUN!!! Run before relationship goes any further. It will only get worse. Everything is your fault, his anger, his actions…you made him do it. If you have kids and give up your career, then your really stuck.  As I  have been told, “the door is there”, “I’ll quit my job and we’ll loose the house”, “I’ll let the kids starve”, “you’re worthless because you don’t have a job but don’t expect me to help with the kids if you get a job.. better be only during school hours”, etc. etc. etc. Classic signs of verbal abuse.  Wait until attacking you isn’t enough and he attacks your kids. This usually starts around 6 yrs. old.  Before that, the kids confusion to the situation doesn’t give him his control or  power. As I said RUN!!!

]]> By: christian counseling http://vitalrelationships.com/couples-how-to-stop-verbal-abuse-in-its-tracks/comment-page-1/#comment-45 christian counseling Mon, 29 Aug 2011 10:12:00 +0000 http://www.vitalrelationships.com/blog/?p=290#comment-45 Listen to your feelings and believe them. Don’t believe it when an abuser tells you you’re crazy or wrong or that you can’t take a joke. Listen to your feelings and believe them. Don’t believe it when an
abuser tells you you’re crazy or wrong or that you can’t take a joke.

]]> By: Nawfwestgz http://vitalrelationships.com/couples-how-to-stop-verbal-abuse-in-its-tracks/comment-page-1/#comment-43 Nawfwestgz Sun, 31 Jul 2011 19:09:00 +0000 http://www.vitalrelationships.com/blog/?p=290#comment-43 You have to Jamm some z-ro or lil flip, smoke a fat square to It and get hi*h as u can to relieve stress then u gotta pimp him and show him hes a trick and repeat this twice and he will stop talking to u like that... You have to Jamm some z-ro or lil flip, smoke a fat square to It and get hi*h as u can to relieve stress then u gotta pimp him and show him hes a trick and repeat this twice and he will stop talking to u like that…

]]> By: Nawfwestgz http://vitalrelationships.com/couples-how-to-stop-verbal-abuse-in-its-tracks/comment-page-1/#comment-44 Nawfwestgz Sun, 31 Jul 2011 19:09:00 +0000 http://www.vitalrelationships.com/blog/?p=290#comment-44 You have to Jamm some z-ro or lil flip, smoke a fat square to It and get hi*h as u can to relieve stress then u gotta pimp him and show him hes a trick and repeat this twice and he will stop talking to u like that... You have to Jamm some z-ro or lil flip, smoke a fat square to It and get hi*h as u can to relieve stress then u gotta pimp him and show him hes a trick and repeat this twice and he will stop talking to u like that…

]]> By: confused http://vitalrelationships.com/couples-how-to-stop-verbal-abuse-in-its-tracks/comment-page-1/#comment-42 confused Sat, 16 Apr 2011 03:32:00 +0000 http://www.vitalrelationships.com/blog/?p=290#comment-42 How do I defuse a situation. Like ok my boyfriend gets mad at the smallest things. and well he calls me all sorts of names during this. Once he's done being mad he feels terrible about what he did and comforts me about how its all his fault... How do I defuse a situation. Like ok my boyfriend gets mad at the smallest things. and well he calls me all sorts of names during this. Once he’s done being mad he feels terrible about what he did and comforts me about how its all his fault…

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