Get More of What You Want

Here’s a short video where I talk about turning complaints into requests so you can get more of what you want in your relationship. Let me know what you think. Click post tittle to see video.

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Making Time For Intimacy

I’ve read that the average couple spends less than twenty-seven and a half minutes engaged in personal conversation per week.

Make a commitment to connect with one another every day. Remind yourself to be present in those moments you are together.

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7 Tips to Honor Your Boundaries

by Geoff Farnsworth June 26, 2010 Boundaries

1. Begin by becoming aware of your boundaries. Take notice of your feelings. They are your inner messengers, your inner guidance system. When a boundary is crossed, there is a definite physiological response. If someone’s comments or actions make you uncomfortable, notice how you react physically. Do you take a sharp breath in? Does your [...]

Couples, How to Stop Verbal Abuse in Its Tracks

by Geoff Farnsworth May 26, 2010 Boundaries

Frustration and anger can lead to mean-spirited, disrespectful communication. We sometimes reach the breaking point and say hurtful or belittling comments, often while raising our voice.

One Of The Most Serious Errors Every Couple Makes

by Geoff Farnsworth May 21, 2010 Communication

The number one way to destroy love and intimacy in relationships is by blaming your partner for what’s wrong. Blame is when you’ve identified the cause of your problem and it’s your partner.  If only he or she were different, you wouldn’t have to feel disappointed, hurt, or anger. When we blame our partner, we [...]

Working on Your Relationship—Alone

by Geoff Farnsworth April 16, 2010 Relationship Advice

As the saying goes, it takes two to tango. It also takes two to make a couple. It takes two to make a relationship and, it follows, two to work on that relationship. But what happens when one person in a relationship doesn’t want to do the work—especially if that work means going to couples [...]

Why couples communication skills don’t always work and what does.

by Geoff Farnsworth April 9, 2010 Relationship Advice

Couples come into my office saying they don’t know how to communicate.  They often escalate into a full-blown argument or end up shutting down and pulling away from each other. The assumption is that if they could learn to communicate well during arguments, they wouldn’t end up hurting each other or pushing each other away. [...]

Create Happier Relationships, Practice Gratitude

by Geoff Farnsworth April 1, 2010 Relationship Advice

“Be joyful even when you have considered all the facts.” —Wendell Berry Gratitude isn’t a new idea; most spiritual practices and philosophies emphasize gratitude and compassion for others. But in recent years gratitude has shifted from being an idea to a concrete tool that people can use to become happier and healthier. This practice focuses [...]

The Three Cs of Change in Relationships

by Geoff Farnsworth March 30, 2010 Relationship Advice

Any change begins with courage, clarity and commitment. Courage. It takes courage to be truthful about your own part in keeping the relationship “stuck.” For some people, being “right” is more important than creating a new and better relationship. It takes courage to jump off that pedestal. Clarity. Who are you and what do you [...]

Letting Go: Great Idea. How Do I Do It?

by Geoff Farnsworth February 13, 2010 Relationship Skills

Hot shot kid in a too-fast car cut you off this morning; it’s noon and you’re still seething? Clerk at the grocery store wouldn’t let you in his express line because the guy behind you ratted on your 11th item? Husband had an affair 15 years ago and even though you’ve been divorced for seven, [...]

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